My girlfriend’s a self-proclaimed feminist. Now, how weird is that? For some, that couldn’t even be possible – for a true-blooded feminist is supposed to be for the fairer sex’s side at all times; that marriage, not even a relationship with a male is allowed. But that’s shallow-thinking. Feminists, or any other sort of label or group out there in the world, have grown and developed into their own unique identities, that they sometimes somehow contradict their original ideals. But that’s not exactly such a bad thing, since growth can only mean that progress is made and accomplished. But I’m digressing here. Just because my girlfriend’s a feminist, doesn’t mean she has to play out certain roles or parts. Heck, she doesn’t even need to fit into a mold! Let’s check out some stereotypical feminist traits that just need to be taken out out of the mainstream:
Unattractive
Just because one’s a feminist, doesn’t mean that she needs to disregard her looks. She doesn’t even need to shave her head off, go Sinead O’Connor on everyone. That I can say with my girlfriend, who just happens to be a ramp model in the past. Feminism comes in all shapes and forms, that no specific look or appearance is required to be one. And some of the best feminists in the world are actually the most beautiful persons ever to have existed. Check out Ashley Judd and Natalie Portman, for example. They’re not only strikingly gorgeous, they’re one of the best pro-woman advocates ever.
Angry
Feminism isn’t synonymous to one being angry. Sure, it may take some sort of struggle upholding and fighting for women’s rights and equality, but not all battles need to be done in anger or hate. There are many avenues for spreading the idea of feminism. Musicians showed that this can be done in their concerts. Bjork, the outstanding Icelandic singer, proved that her music on women’s rights can cross through different forms of media and barriers.
Hates Men
We wouldn’t be a couple in the first place, if my girlfriend hates men. Feminism is all about equal opportunities, for women to have a say and stand on some of the often pesky and unneeded gender biases we live by. Let’s take career choices, for example. Just because driving a cab is often done by male drivers, doesn’t mean women can never try to apply.
Me and my girlfriend actually enjoy a very healthy relationship. Sure, we’ve had our ups and downs, but her being a feminist doesn’t bother or is a factor in our fights. I love and support her for what she is, and she’s equally proud of what she’s trying to prove to the world.
